• About the Author
  • Archives
  • Categories
  • Return to Queer Paranormal
  • Archive for the ‘celebrities’ Category

    Someone Else Said It Best…


    2009 - 03.16

    Most modern thoughts are not entirely unique. We borrow from our contemporaries and, occasionally, think up ideas which have already been hatched. Yet some words are timeless. Long after the speaker or writer is dead, we remember them.

    As a slight departure from my usual ramblings, here are just a few of my many favorite quotes spoken by great minds. No truer words were ever spoken.

    “Logic, n. The art of thinking and reasoning in strict accordance with the limitations and incapacities of the human understanding.” Ambrose Bierce

    “If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.” — Lewis Carroll

    “It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” — Marlene Dietrich

    “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas A. Edison

    “Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.” Albert Einstein

    “The difference between genius and stupidity is; genius has its limits.” — Albert Einstein

    “We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.” — Benjamin Franklin

    “I have found little that is ‘good’ about human beings on the whole. In my experience most of them are trash, no matter whether they publicly subscribe to this or that ethical doctrine or none at all. That is something that you cannot say aloud, or perhaps even think.” Sigmund Freud

    “An intelligent man is sometimes forced to be drunk to spend time with his fools.” Ernest Hemingway

    “As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.” Carl Gustav Jung

    “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” Carl Gustav Jung

    “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.” Carl Gustav Jung

    “It is hard enough to remember my opinions, without also remembering my reasons for them!” — Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

    “I became insane, with long intervals of horrible sanity.” — Edgar Allan Poe

    “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” — Socrates

    “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” Mark Twain

    “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” Mark Twain

    “Censorship is telling a man he can’t have a steak just because a baby can’t chew it.” — Mark Twain

    “It takes your enemy and your friend, working together, to hurt you to the heart: the one to slander you and the other to get the news to you.” — Mark Twain

    “It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them.” — Mark Twain

    “Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.” — Mark Twain

    “There are three types of lies — lies, damn lies, and statistics.” — Mark Twain

    “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” — Mark Twain

    “…gratitude is a debt which usually goes on accumulating like blackmail; the more you pay, the more is exacted. In time, you are made to realize that the kindness done you is become a curse and you wish it had not happened.” Mark Twain

    “Sanity and happiness are an impossible combination.” Mark Twain

    “The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple.” Oscar Wilde

    “There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.” Oscar Wilde

    “A true friend stabs you in the front.” Oscar Wilde

    “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” Oscar Wilde

    Walking England’s Most Haunted City…


    2009 - 03.14

    While I normally hate congested urban places, some part of me loves London. The ultimate irony is looking back over my journal writing in 1998-99 during my trip to the city, you might not think it:


    January 6, 1990 – Day 12
    “Well, this magical mystery tour is almost over. Two more days. I’m glad they’re in London or I’d have to kill someone. [The teacher/tour guide] Fred’s been quite bitchy lately. Glad he’s gone to Africa. Depending on energy, I might go out or just call Simon [my friend from Soho]…”

    I didn’t get to see any haunted places. I was trapped with a bunch of fellow students who acted more like stereotypical, obnoxious American tourists than even I could have expected. I only spent time with my friend Simon once during the entire trip. I was utterly broke by the final days. I ordered prawns at a pub near the hotel and refused to eat them because they were “staring at me”. And the leader of the group turned out to be a stingy ‘dirty old man’ we all grew to hate. But the city itself, with all its flaws, was a breath of fresh air. It just felt like home. And all these years later, that female voice from the Tube still echoes inside my head: “Next stop, Marylebone… Marylebone…

    I highly recommend a visit there to anyone in the United States, or any other country for that matter. It’s a whole different world. And there are more ghostly legends than you could imagine. But don’t make my mistake: spend some time looking for spooks. Dozens of books about London’s ghosts, from the Underground to pubs, are everywhere. London embraces its haunted heritage, and no one should miss out on that creepy aspect.

    If you do find yourself in London, I recommend a ghost tour or two. While taxi drivers and business owners have plenty to say, it’s good to have a broad range of tales encompassed in the span of a few hours. And one group, London Paranormal, offers a wide range of walking tours and paranormal events throughout the year. Its founder is a name you might recognize from one season of Most Haunted: Ian Shillito. Or perhaps you’ve read on here about The Scary Marys and remember him from it. And if you happen to be in the city during the month of October, there’s always the organization’s London Ghost Festival.

    Is it gay-friendly? You better believe it. Ian’s a fellow “out” investigator, so there’s no need to worry about being yourself. And London has a few gay ghosts to boot, along with other places throughout the UK, some of which I’ve chronicled in the upcoming book Queer Paranormal. You can bet that my next trip across the pond will include several stops in England. Ghosts and legalized gay marriage: who could ask for more?

    News That’s Beyond Bizarre…


    2009 - 02.06

    To end the week on an interesting note, here are some unusual stories from our weird world. And that’s no hat trick

    The Whisperer and the Ghost…

    Yes, Jennifer Love Hewitt, star of Ghost Whisperer, does believe in ghosts in real life. In fact, she recently had a conversation with her dead grandmother, thanks to psychic James Van Praagh. She told OK! Magazine, “She just wanted to say hello and tell me that she was looking out for me. It was really nice.” I’m sure Hewitt was an easier audience for Van Praagh than Barbara Walters.

    Please, No Pictures…

    The hunt for Storsjöodjuret, the infamous lake monster of Sweden, continues. But there is one slight snag for cryptozoologists: cameras have been banned by the council from being used on the shores of Lake Storsjön. Under-water surveillance has passed through local ordinance four times, but if you’re planning an impromptu jaunt with a digital, you had better think twice. Who needs evidence, anyway?

    Those Bloody Lesbians…

    Perth was shaken in 2006 by the slaying of a 16-year-old girl. The two assailants, Jessica Stasinowsky and her lover Valerie Parashmuti, both pleaded guilty this week to bludgeoning their roommate to death with a concrete block. Apparently, the deed turned them on and they proceeded to make out while standing over her body. Parashmuti, 19, belonged to a vampire cult which engaged in the ritualistic drinking of blood. Their motive? They thought the girl was “annoying” and believed she was flirting with the girls significant other. Thus perpetuating the belief that lesbians are tough, vicious creatures…

    Was Darby O’Gill Delusional?

    If you’re seeing faeries outside of the nearest gay bar, you might be suffering from Charles Bonnet Syndrome (CBS). British doctors estimate as many as 100,000 people in England may suffer from CBS. The disturbance causes hallucinations of people, objects, and even little winged human figures while the sufferer remains otherwise of sound mind. Scientists say it is caused by a lack of visual stimulation, not mental illness. Theories for ending CBS vary from stimulating the fingertips to holding your breath to (in extreme cases) medication. In the case of visual hallucinations of leprechauns, I might recommend looking for that pot of gold anyway…

    Deck the Halls with Bows of Drama…


    2008 - 12.11

    Every so often, I take a peek at the fascinating drama happening in the paranormal community. The bickering and name-calling, often surrounding people in the media. (Hey at least it’s not about me, for once.) After a brief glimpse months ago at a thread surrounding Chip Coffey, I decided to revisit the mudslinging and see what had been said. If I’ve learned anything it’s that time is a wonderful thing. Truth sorts itself out miles down the road.

    Now I try to be open-minded to all sides in arguments (which creates issues in itself), and I’m far from a perfect person. I get caught up in the wave of dissent and make a few blunders. I do my best to keep a sense of humor, though, and avoid lambasting people with definitive statements. I see all sides of everything.

    For those not “in the know”, a woman accused members of Paranormal State of faking results. Wow… isn’t that a first? I’m hard pressed to find any group or show that hasn’t met controversy. Are the allegations true? Honestly, I have no idea. Depending on who you ask, you’ll get a different answer.

    While allegations are often plausible, it’s the after-effects that end up revealing clues. And in this case, it does strike me strange that someone feeling jilted by free publicity would begin charging people to visit her haunted home. Is it proof positive? No, but a red flag goes up.

    People have misconceptions about television and those who appear on a screen. I have known writers, filmmakers, actors, and other individuals in the public eye. Yes, what you see isn’t always exact reality. “Improv” can be scripted. Troubles brew on the set. And often, the visible people face the brunt of it all. Anyone who knows the behind-the-scenes workings can tell you that it’s a totally different world from what appears to the viewer. Even in “reality television”, nothing is as it appears.

    An old friend of mine stepped away from the movie world for good in recent years. Seeing all I witness, I know why. It’s not about being a bad actor or not finding work. It’s about sanity, avoiding rumor mills, and wanting a normal life. And there is no fault in that. If he wants to work at a restaurant and come home to his other half, it doesn’t mean “he couldn’t cut it” or “has a pathetic life”, as some could suggest. Fame has its price. Getting out of the downward spiral and nightmarish hellstorm while you can is wise.

    But back to Chip, Ryan, and the drama.

    So, what do I believe? I think that there is a lot the general public doesn’t know about every single show and film ever made. I believe that truth is relative. And I still have faith that truth wins out over all else. Not a satisfactory answer? Sorry. I have heard so many things about so many people over the years. I’ve watched message boards fill up with rumors while knowing the truth. I’ve been called a liar, fake, and charlatan. I have tried to tell the truth to defend people only to be told I was “making it up for fame”. Then, when truth finally rears its head, people magically forget that someone had their facts straight.

    I know the burning questions people want an answer to: is Chip a fraud? Is Ryan vain? Is the woman a greedy sod? I’m not here to answer those things. I’m here to find amusement in humanity. Our petty babblings and stupid assumptions. I play devil’s advocate to test the waters. I have psychic friends who have come under attack (actually, every single one has). I also have friends who felt jilted by celebrities. It bothers me to be forced into the middle, so I refuse to do it. A friend of mine from Florida emailed me about a psychic on television who “stole” his television show idea and ran with it. Since the show is currently on air, I’m not saying another word. But I avoided commenting back about that. They’re both adult men and can duke it out themselves. I refuse to take sides with either one. Why? Because I don’t have all the facts. I get along with most everyone and intend to stay that way. I’m not here to say which psychic is better than the other.

    To be honest, I like Chip. And I give him credit for holding his own with all the trash that goes around. Does that mean that everyone I know, associate with, or befriend likes him? Hardly. But so what? I’m Switzerland. I indulge all sides in their say. Switzerland harbored refugee Jews and laundered Nazi money. Do I agree with everyone? No. But in this world of name-calling and mean words, I tend to keep quiet about my own views. Trying to be friendly with everyone is one of the most difficult tasks in the world. Yet one thing holds true: often, the people who accuse others of certain behaviors and deeds are guilty of the same things. That’s why I smile. it’s merely a suppressed laugh.

    And for those of you who want answers, I’ll give you one. You’ll probably never know the real answers to these questions. Is psychic X legit and psychic Y a fraud? Find out for yourself. Judge people by their character and compassion and not popularity or rumors. Most of us are undecided on the truth behind psychic ability. Yet I have had things told to me by psychics which ended up being true. I’ve also had horrible readings that were nothing but trash. I’ve known arrogant psychics who saw themselves as demigods and hesitant ones who worried about every word they said.

    Am I a little biased with who I like? Of course. Aren’t we all? I’m not perfect nor am I entirely neutral. Those are two impossibilities in humanity. And I am human… last I checked. I can be lead astray. I make errors in judgement. I put my foot in my mouth. But at least I’m sensible enough to admit it. If I laugh at the world’s stupidity, shouldn’t I laugh at my own?

    News from our Strange World…


    2008 - 12.04

    It’s an odd word out there. We’re in the middle of some scary times… and I’m not even talking about the economy! If those dire tales of woe from your local broadcasters are turning you numb, here are just a few of the more amusing news stories you missed.

    Needling those Politicians…

    Sorry, President Sarkozy. A French court has decided against banning voodoo dolls made in his image. The novelty toys may have won, but they didn’t walk away unscathed. K&B was ordered to pay one Euro in damages plus court costs and now needs to attach a disclaimer to the doll stating that the President of France disapproves. I’m sure Sarkozy is feeling a but more blue than his fabric likeness.

    Girl Power(s)…

    Former Spice Girl Geri Halliwell has decided to ’spice up her life’. The actress and singer recently discovered her own psychic abilities! As proof of her supernatural skills, she accurately predicted that one of her PAs would give birth to a girl. Good going, Ginger. It’s the little victories that matter most, right?

    ¡Salsa Dios Mío!

    The Virgin Mary decided to get a little favor when she miraculouly appeared in salsa splatter on a wall in Bakersfield. While mincing the Spanish treat in a blender, the California woman noticed the pattern on her kitchen cabinet after some dip splashed out of its container. The anonymous homeowner says there is also the scent of roses in her flowerless home. She told local media sources that she beieves it to be a sign that “people need to start treating each other better”. She could start by passing the nachos…

    Drive-In Ghost Tours…

    Don’t believe what you hear; ghost hunting can be deadly! Participants in a Charleston ghost tour discovered this for themselves Tuesday night when an out-of-control Mazda RX7 crashed through the crowd at Meeting and Broad streets, known as the Four Corners of Law. The driver accidentally stepped on the gas instead of the clutch, injuring two tourists. Tour owner John LaVerne refunded everyone, though most continued the tour. Talk about your die-hard ghost hunters!

    I Fell into a Burning Ring of Fire…

    What do you do when your apartment is infiltrated by evil? Well, a woman in Marietta, Georgia thought she chose the best solution: burn it down. Claiming that items inside her dwelling were possessed by voodoo curses, Felicia Johnson stacked the belongings in two piles and lit them ablaze to “cleanse the apartment of the spirits”. Marietta Fire Department quickly conquered the flames and avoided serious damage to the complex. She was charged with first degree arson and taken to a hospital to undergo mental evaluation.

    A Half Century of Science Fiction…


    2008 - 11.25

    Sunday marked a milestone which passed me by entirely. It was the 45th anniversary of the British scifi series Doctor Who.

    On the day following John F. Kennedy’s assassination, November 23, 1963, the first episode of Doctor Who hit the airwaves. Through its many seasons, spinoffs, and incarnations, it has remained a popular story. It follows the adventures of “the Doctor”, a time-traveling alien “time lord” on his journeys throughout time and space, correcting injustices and exploring frontiers in a less-than-reliable archaic time machine known as the TARDIS.

    On an interesting side note, the show is featured in one of my favorite movies. In several scenes of Get Real, the lead character’s father is watching old episodes. A Doctor Who clock is proudly displayed on the wall and he is dressed as a Cyberman (one of the Doctor’s adversaries) as he prepares to attend a convention. On another interesting note, the lead actor (Ben Silverstone) is older than me… by only six days.

    The show has seen 751 aired episodes since the 1960s and is featured in the Guinness Book of World Records as the longest-running scifi series in history. Ten separate actors have been cast in the main role over the decades, including Peter Davison (’Tristan’ from All Creatures Great and Small) and the most current, David Tennant.

    This show marked my first indoctrination into scifi only a few years ago and quickly became a favorite. Its mix of real history, bizarre creatures, philosophical undercurrents, and quirky humor add to its unique charm.

    So, happy belated birthday, Doctor Who. Here’s to hoping for many more years of fantastical oddities…

    A Disappointed Demon and Nutty Ghosts…


    2008 - 11.20

    My comedic tastes range from the traditional to the insane. And with the latter, one New York comedy troop comes to mind: The Whitest Kids U’Know. Their sketches range from absurd to offensive, yet comedy (as with beauty) is in the eye of the beholder.

    I’ve been overdue for a good dose of comedy and thought I’d share with you all a few interesting video clips from their program. Surprisingly, they each have a paranormal theme. The first follows a demon assigned to a Ouija board at a slumber party. It’s followed by a skit surrounding an office worker plagued by the supernatural. Like most jokes from WKUK, they speak entirely for themselves.

    The second video is definitely not safe for work… though it is work-themed.

    Ouija Board Demon

    Can You See Them?

    Even Celebrities Love Ghosts…


    2008 - 11.13

    British pop singer Robbie Williams isn’t limiting himself to ufology these days. All realms of the supernatural are fair game.

    A group of 15 teenagers in England were surprised by the singer while investigating the Leopard Inn in Burslem, Staffordshire for a local educational project called Reach4It. Williams was there for the Halloween hunt with his mother Jan and his girlfriend Ayda Field. He congratulated the teens on their work investigating the alleged hauntings.

    Being the good sport he is, he picked up the group’s £200 tab for the tour, food, and drinks.

    Between autographs and photo ops, Williams asked the group a multitude of questions about the paranormal and their work. During their later investigation, some of the teens reported slamming doors and strange lights.

    The Leopard Inn has been a public house since at east 1765 when Josiah Wedgwood (founder of the famed Wedgwood pottery) met with James Brindley to discuss construction of the Trent and Mersey Canal. The hotel portion of the business closed in 1956 and was reopened in 2007 with plans for restoration.

    Bewitch It Like Beckham…


    2008 - 11.13

    Amulets and charms might sound a bit silly to some, but a little good luck never hurts. Just ask Victoria and David Beckham.

    With David leaving soon to join a soccer team in Milan, Italy, the couple exchanged necklaces as an early 10th anniversary present. They’re not your ordinary jewelery; each hand-carved, gold-and-silver Japanese pendant features Archangel Raphael.

    “The energy they emit is incredibly powerful,” Victoria told Vogue Magazine. “These pieces act as talismans of love, healing and protection.”

    This isn’t the first talisman to be worn by David. He currently wears another charmed necklace believed to effect libido and endurance. Judging by what Victoria has mentioned in the past, it must work!

    The XXX Files…


    2008 - 09.01

    You may know David Duchovny as Fox Mulder, one of the two FBI agents from the television series X Files. The movie came out this summer with an apathetic fanfare. Now, Duchovny, 48, has followed the footsteps of so many other Hollywood stars and entered rehab.

    But he’s not an alcoholic or cocaine junkie. Duchovny has a sex addiction.

    In an ironic twist, this year Duchovny won a Golden Globe for his portrayal of a sex-addicted struggling writer on Californication. Sometimes, life imitates art.

    Duchovny is asking for people to respect his privacy at this time. It has been a difficult time for him, his wife Téa Leoni, and their two children.

    Back in 1998, Leoni squashed rumors of her husband’s high libido. “David was accused of being a sex addict,” she said. “Which I always found very exciting. And then I found out it wasn’t true.”

    Apparently, I Want to Believe turned into ‘the truth is out there’.